Congratulations on Your Marriage in Iowa

Conventional Wisdom
Wedding Poem #11

Conventional wisdom has it
It’s easy to get married
Hard to stay married.

Easy to get married:
Go downtown to the justice of the peace
Think you’re in love and ask someone
Maybe the first someone who gives you a tumble
Or says: I love you
Will you marry me?
Sure, why not.

One year later
You’re eating breakfast separately
One of you likes the television on
One off,

The other one
Has a stomach ailment
That produces excessive noise.

By two years,
There is silence in your home
Other then the noises of digestion, television —
Silence.

Easy to get married,
Conventional wisdom has it,
Hard to stay married.

On the other hand,
There might be an Iowa
A state in the Mid-West
To condone marriage
Between man and man
And woman and woman

You might have to find a sympathetic
Judge in the state of Iowa
To give you a license
You might have to come in a bus
From another state
Missouri, for example

You might have to leave at 6 AM.
Hard to get married, I say,
Easy to stay married.

You work the politics,
The bus,
The weather,
The complexities of another state
And the management of a team of clergy,

You conclude with the optimistic:
Hard to get married,
Easy to stay married.

This is known as a syllogism
Spelled with a y not with an i
from the root word silly

It’s counter to conventional wisdom
All wisdom is counter to the conventional
We know this from the Hebrew masters of the nistar,
The hidden wisdom
Which is really real,

As taught by the old masters of Kabbalah
And jazzmen who once blew saxophone
In St. Louis, Missouri –

In years to come
You might look at each other
With questions,

You will say
Remember how hard it was to get married?
This –
Is nothing

And you’ll fall in love
More
And
Again.

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